Think of it like this, Do you ask your mother if you can go out with your friends before or after you go? I mean, wouldn't she be pissed if you waited till after you got back home to ask? Same principle, never do before you ask. I would have said yes, if you hasn't published it 10 days before you asked if it was ok. And yes, please remove both of them. Never do that to any stocker ever again.